When couples come to therapy after an affair, treatment usually gets framed around communication, rebuilding trust, or restructuring the relationship. Those pieces matter. But there is another variable that quietly determines how therapy unfolds, and it rarely gets the attention […]
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When clinicians hear the phrase healthy sexual expression, most default, often without noticing, to behavioral metrics. The first questions tend to sound like: How often is the client having sex? With how many partners? Are they using protection? Those questions […]
Infidelity is often the most misunderstood issue for therapists working with couples. It is commonly seen as a straightforward violation, often sexual, but the truth is much more complex. In reality, infidelity isn’t a fixed concept; it varies based on […]
One of the most persistent and clinically consequential assumptions in relational work is the idea that sex and intimacy are the same thing. That equation runs deep in our cultural narratives, but it is neither universally true nor therapeutically useful. […]
Few issues destabilize a couple like an affair. Infidelity arrives in the therapy room not just as a relational rupture but as a crisis of meaning, identity, and emotional safety. When a couple asks, “Can we recover from this?” they […]
When non monogamy first shows up in the therapy room, many clinicians feel a jolt of confusion, and often a wave of concern right behind it. A client mentions that they or their partner are dating other people, and the […]
As a supervisor, one of the most common mistakes I see in early career psychotherapists is moving too quickly to interpretation. You have been trained to make meaning, to identify patterns, to name dynamics. Those are good instincts. But in […]
If you are a newer therapist looking for clinical supervision, chances are you have already spent years absorbing theory. You have studied the models, sat through the trainings, and passed the exams. You can explain CBT, EFT, psychodynamic concepts, and […]